• Why should an engaged couple take dance lessons prior to their wedding?
Most brides dream about twirls and dips on the day of her wedding, and many grooms are unsure how to properly
lead a twirl or dip. It is important to look cool and confident on the dance floor for most couples.
In just a handful of lessons, an instructor can have the couple moving across the floor, twirling and dipping with ease.
• Should the engaged couple already have their wedding song picked out, prior to their lessons?
Couples do not have to have one song picked out prior to their lessons. It is good to have a few options.
The instructor can show you different dance styles that will work for each song.
The couple can then decide which style best suits them for their ideal First Dance.
• How long should the couple’s main wedding dance last (i.e. the couple’s First Dance)?
Wedding dances should be 2:30 to 3:30 minutes.
Just enough time for everyone to OOH and AHH at how happy the couple looks!
Most of the time, the instructor is able to splice music to provide the couple with the ideal song length.
• What are some of the most appropriate dance styles for the couple’s main wedding dance?
The dance style for a First Dance is often dictated by the song the couple chooses.
Most common dance styles used are Waltz, Foxtrot, Tango, Rumba, Swing, 2-Step.
• How many lessons should an engaged couple typically take, so that they are prepared for the Big Day,
and what will they learn at these lessons?
Couples learn about holding each other, lead and follow tips and steps, pointers on posture and how to pose
for perfect photo shoot opportunities. Anywhere from 3 lessons to an entire year of lessons is typical for wedding
couples. The amount of lessons really depends on what the couple would like to achieve.
A First Dance that is simple with elegance will take fewer lessons than a dance with complex choreography.
There are two main styles of First Dances. The first is the most simple and can be done in 3-10 lessons.
This First Dance includes a few turns, dips and poses and travels around the dance floor. This style is more about
comfort and has an elegant look with little “entertainment value.” The second style is more complex with flashy moves,
side by side choreography, and lots of show stopping and entertainment pizzazz. Depending on the couple’s vision,
this can be achieved in 5-20 lessons. Most importantly, couples should give themselves time to prepare for
the First Dance and not cram dance lessons into the crazy 2 weeks before the wedding.
• Do the bride-to-be and groom-to-be both need to attend the dance lessons at the same time?
If not, how do ballroom dance instructors typically work around situations where both people can’t be present
for their lessons at the same time?
Most of the time, couples find the time to take lessons together. However, couples can take lessons separately
and in some studios couples are encouraged to do so. In ballroom dancing there are steps and patterns and each has
a “leader” part and a “follower” part. We can teach each part on separate lessons. When the couple is able to attend
together, we should be able to have the leader and follower do their parts and they should fit together even if they
have never danced it together before. The instructor can practice with the individuals since they understand both roles.
• What are some of the main differences between group and private lessons?
What are the advantages and disadvantages to each?
In group dance lessons, couples are forced to learn at the pace of the others in the group and limited to the steps
that are planned for the class. Groups are a great way to get started and learn about your instructor and some
of the dance terms and vocabulary. A disadvantage is often scheduling conflicts.
Private lessons are more individualized and planned for the couple. In a private lesson, couples can learn
at their own pace and often feel more comfortable asking questions when having trouble with a step.
• Should the couple wear any specific types of shoes to their lessons?
Comfortable shoes that you can dance in are the best to wear at a lesson. Most common shoes are ballet flats,
dress shoes, and wedding dress shoes. We recommend that you not wear flip flops as they tend to cause
stumbles while dancing.
• What if the bride-to-be or the groom-to-be is far more experienced in dance than their partner?
Is it still possible (and advisable) to take lessons together?
Regardless of dance experience, it is important to take lessons together. All eyes will be on the bride and groom
during the First Dance. Couples want to look good together, comfortable without hitches or stumbles.
Going over steps and making sure you are on the same page is the best way to look confident during the First Dance.
• What types of clothing should students wear to their dance lessons?
Clothing for dance lessons can vary from suits and ties if they are coming from the office,
to jeans or comfortable workout clothes. Come dressed to move.
• How far in advance should a couple start taking dance lessons before the Big Day?
Couples should start lessons 3-6 months prior to the wedding.
• Is a wedding dance usually a choreographed/pre-planned routine?
Most wedding dances have an outline or plan. The couple’s taste for flash and entertainment
will determine the extent of choreography.
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